Legacy

7 Men

554690_1_ftcEric Metaxas has a new book out and it looks like a great and inspiring read on manhood understood in and through the lives of seven great men. Here’s a blurb…

What is a man and what make a man great? Metaxas offers seven exquisitely crafted portraits of widely known—but not well understood—great men from history. You’ll be inspired by the lives these seven men lived, often in the face of overwhelming adversity, and always at heroic sacrifice to themselves for the sake of others.

Here’s the link to the website for the book.

And here’s a video to say a bit more about the book…

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Your Legacy to Your Children

fatherhood1What legacy are we leaving to our children and to our children’s children? 2 Kings 17:40-41 gives us a frightening glimpse of what it could be if we are not vigilant. Take in these sobering words…

2 Kings 17:40-41 – They would not listen, however, but persisted in their former practices. [41] Even while these people were worshiping the Lord, they were serving their idols. To this day their children and grandchildren continue to do as their fathers did.

We can commit idolatry, even while professing the Lord. How shocking is that? Our legacy can be for good or evil, righteousness or wickedness. But make no mistake… we will leave a legacy. How are you influencing your children?

Our children tend to believe what we believe, behave the way we behave, and have the same attitudes as we. We will either draw them closer to God or drive them farther away.

Israel believed what they did and behaved how they did because the world was too much a part of them. They were called to be a set-apart (holy) people. They were to think, speak, act, and worship differently than the surrounding culture.

And yet, 2 Kings 17 is a horrific tale of the worst forms of human depravity. God’s very own people practiced everything from idolatry to child-sacrifice to everything in-between. The depths to which the children of Israel fell and became like their ambient culture is staggering.

Perhaps, however, the last two verses of Chapter 17 are the most somber of all. Even after the Lord called his children to repentance and emphasized that his love was still available to them, we read these words in verse 40…

They would not listen, however, but persisted in their former practices.

Then, in verse 41, we learn of the consequences that can destroy a family, a church, or a nation.

Even while these people were worshiping the Lord, they were serving their idols. To this day their children and grandchildren continue to do as their fathers did.

The example of the parents and grandparents had been firmly set in place. Their legacy was playing out. It’s no wonder that James reminds us that friendship with the world is to become an enemy of God (James 4:4).

To be a holy, set apart people means that we have an allegiance to God and to God alone. It means that we must declare our loyalty to him even while dwelling in a foreign land. When we do, we pass along a godly heritage – a godly legacy – that can last for a thousand generations. Yet, when infidelity to our King is our memorial, the consequences can be perilous.

How do we let the world in our hearts and let its fallen, sinful patterns influence us? There seems to be no end to the number of books written to answer that very question. Yet, for my part, I would want us to ask at least this question: What is our goal in the raising of our children? Success? Happiness? Wealth? Status? Education? The right social connections?

If “godliness” is not our automatic, reflexive answer to that question, then perhaps the world is too much with us. Perhaps it is the world, and not our Lord, who is setting our agenda. So too, and more importantly, it’s not merely what we’re trying to pass on to our children, but who we, as parents and grandparents, essentially are. For if we talk like the world, walk like the world, and look like the world, then it may not be much of a stretch for our children and grandchildren to assume that such worldliness is how “good Christian children” should talk, walk, and look.

Is that the legacy you want to leave to those you care most about in this world?

May God turn (and keep) our hearts toward him.

Stand Firm,
Dale

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Stand Firm (4/16) – Marriage & Family

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An E-zine for the Pursuit of Godly Manhood

Be watchful, stand firm in the faith, act like men, be strong. Let all that you do be done in love. (1 Corinthians 16:13-14)

1.) The Ring Makes All the Difference - new book at Bristol House by Glenn Stanton on the hidden, and certainly unintended consequences that face couples who live together before getting married.

2.) Parents, Sports & Church by James Emery White at Church & Culture Blog

3.) Five Ways Adult Children Can H0nor Their Parents by Daniel Darling

4.) Here are some children’s books on the attributes of God by William Lane Craig at Reasonable Faith

5.) Reversing the Youth Exodus by Regis Nicoll at Break Point. This is very important article.

6.) How to Fight for Your Son in a Way He Will Love by Kevin East

7.) What I Find Most Attractive About Your Husband by Shari Popejoy at Today’s Christian Woman

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Planning Your Family’s Mission

from Men Stepping Up

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My Life For Yours: The Call of Men

John 12:24-26

I tell you the truth, unless a kernel of wheat falls to the ground and dies, it remains only a single seed. But if it dies, it produces many seeds. [25] The man who loves his life will lose it, while the man who hates his life in this world will keep it for eternal life. [26] Whoever serves me must follow me; and where I am, my servant also will be. My Father will honor the one who serves me.

In our scripture Jesus is teaching his disciples that he is going to die, but that he must if they would live. A kernel of wheat must die if it would produce many seeds.

Why hasn’t reformation and revival broken out across the church at Southside…or any other church around us lately? There are perhaps many reasons, but could one reason be that we are holding on too preciously and tightly to our own lives – unwilling to die – so that we might reproduce many seeds through our deaths? Do we love our lives too much in this world, so much so, that we are actually losing our lives?

My life for yours. Genuine, substitutionary, and sacrificial living. Following and serving our King wherever he may lead…to whatever end. This brings honor from the Father. This glorifies the Father.

My life for yours. Training and nurturing our children in the Lord – when we rise, when we go to bed, as we live throughout the day, when it’s convenient, when it’s inconvenient – making sure that our children are not merely “taught at” but saturated in the things of God each day, all day – because they are eternal beings and heirs of the King. “I tell you the truth, unless a kernel of wheat falls to the ground and dies, it remains only a single seed. But if it dies, it produces many seeds.”

Are we leaving a godly legacy to and for our children and our children’s children for a thousand generations? Are we dying so they can live – really live? Can we think outside our individual lives to see how our own deaths will extend the Kingdom of God by producing many seeds? Will we believe the promises of God that he has made regarding faithful, covenantal parenting? My life for yours and for a thousand generations after you. Talk about a payoff!

But this is hard. That’s why it’s called death. Death to self. It is intentional, committed, disciplined. It’s every day, all day. It’s the discipling of our children because it is our joy, blessing, and responsibility before God to do so. Our lives for theirs. The Kingdom of God grows in such ways. Darkness is engulfed by light through such ways. Reformation and revival are ushered in through such faith and obedience. God promises blessings to such as these.

We must die. We must do with less stuff if it means more time with our families. We must wrestle with our children at the end of the day…even when we are tired. We must discipline our children, even when we would rather not. We must cast a God-glorifying vision before our children (and reiterate it every day) of who they could be for Jesus. We have to read great stories to our children (even when we’d rather doze off) so that their imaginations can ignite as they put themselves in the places of the characters in the stories. We have to read to them about the heroes of the faith who have gone before us, so that they might see how others have given themselves for Christ and his Kingdom. We absolutely must teach our children who our God is – his person, plan, power, purpose and so on. We must drive home again and again what the gospel is and is not (after all, we’re not trying to merely make better citizens or “behaviorally correct” robots). We must teach them grace and show them grace. They must learn what it means to know, love, and follow Christ. They have to understand that our faith is a total world and life view that addresses every sphere of life.

We are called to create Christian cultures in our homes though the power of God’s Word and Spirit, that those cultures might spill out into every other sphere of life. This is first and foremost our (the parents’) responsibility, not others…not even the church. Our lives for theirs. We must die so they can live.

Can we let go? Of our wants, things, desires, passions – our very lives? We must if we would find real life – abundant life – eternal life. Life in service to the King is not our own…it’s better. Only in dying are we raised. Only in dying are more seeds produced, and therefore, more fruit. Our lives for theirs.

From our commitment and hard daily labor now, what might God do in response? Might he use one of our children, (or one of our children’s children), to bring many to Christ, to redeem the culture, to usher in reformation and revival in the church, to extend the Kingdom of God as never before? We have every reason to believe he will! But we must die. We must fall to the ground and die. We must hate our lives in this world. We must give our lives for our children’s lives, and for their children after them, that God might be pleased and choose to honor us by blessing those for whom we gave our lives.

My life for yours. Our lives for theirs. This is biblical faith.

Grace and Truth,
Dale

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A Life-Changing Message

Yesterday I mentioned a book by George Grant that radically changed how I think, minister, etc. It’s called The Micah Mandate. Once again, I highly recommend it! Today I want to share how God used an audio-taped message (also by George Grant) about an obscure man from the pages of history of whom most folks have never heard. God used the message about this man to bless my life and ministry in ways I could not even have imagined as I put the tape into the tape-player of my car. Here’s what I first wrote eight or nine years ago…

Earlier this year God poured his grace upon me as he placed in my hands an audiotaped lecture entitled, “Gerard Groote and the Brethren of the Common Life.” It was delivered by George Grant. I can’t express how moved I was by what I heard in this message. In this lecture Grant basically revealed what a biblical worldview should look like in the  “everydayness” of a Christian’s life and ministry. He accomplished this by sharing the story of God’s work and power in and through the life of a man named Gerard Groote. Groote lived in the 14th century, and, as Grant says at the beginning of his address,

“It would be difficult to find a single page of modern history written about him. But it would be even more difficult to find a single page of modern history not affected by him.”

 Below are the notes I took from Grant’s message on Groote. I’m sure much won’t translate meaningfully to this format. However, I believe the ideas taught and lived out by Groote and expounded by Grant are more than worth passing on and meditating upon. Enjoy, Dale.

Notes on Gerard Groote: Brethren of the Common Life

Based on a lecture by George Grant

  • Some men’s greatness may be seen in how largely they loom over the movements that they ultimately launched. But greater men are they whose movements loom large over them. Even to the point of obscuring them from view altogether.  Gerard was just such a man.
  •  It would be difficult to find a single page of modern history written about him. But it would be even more difficult to find a single page of modern history not affected by him. 
  • Groote was born with a great deal of money and privilege. He was also very bright. But his was a dissipated life. He chased after pleasure. But he desired something more – something more substantive. 
  • So he began reading in the Augustinian tradition. But he didn’t take the church or the claims of the gospel seriously. (The church in his day was fraught with corruption, impiety, and schism.) In fact, the church was more worldly than the world. 
  • And yet, there was something about the gospel and its claims (especially the doctrines of sovereign grace that he discovered in Augustine) that would not let him go.
     
  • And so, in 1374, Groote was converted to the faith. Almost immediately afterwards, he began to use his ability to articulate truth to tell everyone he knew of the mercies that were available in the gospel of grace. It was not a message often heard in those days. He was received well by many, however. One person who received him was John Wycliffe. Together, he and Wycliffe discussed their ideas of…
  1.  Translating the Bible into the vernacular of the people
  2. Sending out lay-preachers into the community
  3. Teaching ordinary people to read so that they could better understand the doctrines of grace.
  •  Groote returned home and began his labors among common people. His desire to was to spread a vision for radical discipleship. He did. And his followers/disciples who gathered around him called themselves “the Brethren of the Common Life.”
     
  • They described Groote’s vision as the Devotio Moderna (the modern way of serving God). . It was a vision of discipleship that had a number of distinctive elements. It was also unheard of in the 14th century.

 The Devotio Moderna was to be a comprehensive lifestyle rooted in a biblical worldview. Let’s take a look at the distinctives of this “radical discipleship.”

1.)   The Devotio Moderna , first of all, emphasized holiness for every Christian – not just for a few. Groote wanted common piety for common folk – this was the heart of his message.

  • He said the difference between the City of God and the City of Man is demonstrable. Christ’s followers should be imitators of Christ (by grace, through faith – not of themselves). This was the great aim of discipleship according to Groote. He wanted to instill in a while new generation, an appetite for those things that mattered most.
     
  • Groote was a very controversial person because of all this. His vision was the gospel of Jesus Christ, but this vision pitted him against very powerful forces in the culture. But the worse his (and the Brethren’s) reputation became, the greater their following became.

 2.)   Secondly, the Devotio Moderna emphasized the importance of self-examination, as a way of cultivating humility.

  • Groote was famous for saying, “I am tired of just being right.” Instead, he wanted to communicate truth to the world and minister to the needs of others.
     
  • It’s a spirit of humility that affords us the best opportunities to grow, mature, and achieve in the life of the mind. It’s knowing how much we do not know that allows us to fully embark on a lifetime of learning – to recover to any degree, the beauty and goodness and truth of Christendom.
     
  • Groote took seriously the high call of Scripture to walk humbly before God and man.

 3.)               Groote’s Devotio Moderna emphasized the importance of covenantal communities, as the real-life context for discipleship.

  • The idea was for people to live out particular graces with one another. He wanted his disciples to go to the least likely places and gather the least likely students – and invest in those students. He wanted them to plant themselves in those communities, and then allow the gospel to flower whatever the Spirit would bring. This was to be “home.” He believed that it was at “home” that the beauty of Christian civilization was best comprehended.
     
  • For Groote, the best Christian education would bring about such virtues as hospitality, care for the poor, for the sick, strength in families, reaching out to neighbors. It would root people at home.

 4.)               Groote’s Devotio Moderna emphasized the importance of a Confessional Standard (standards rooted in the biblical antithesis).

  • It was for this reason that Groote believed that one of the first tasks of Christian education was to translate the great classics of Christendom into the vernacular language – to give students the tools of translation – to build up libraries, and to initiate literacy among the least and the last – not just the first and the foremost.  (Thomas Chalmers, of the 19th century, relied on Groote for his own education reforms)
     
  • Groote proclaimed that there is no neutrality in education. Facts are not neutral. History is not neutral. Math is not neutral. The world is sundered by a great antithesis – where the City of God and the City of Man never intermingle. We must teach truth – truth in terms of God’s Word – because the Bible is God’s own revelation of wisdom, knowledge, understanding and truth. It is not merely a marvelous collection of quaint sayings and inspiring stories. It’s God’s message to man – his instruction. It is God’s guideline, his plumb line, his bottom line.

 5.)               Therefore, Groote’s Devotio Moderna placed a high premium on teaching every man, woman, and child, the Bible.

  • The Bible was not merely tacked on as one additional class to all the other classes. The Bible was not, for Groote, an appendage to all the other scholastic disciplines.
     
  • Curriculum was not simply to be dipped in Bible passages in order to make it appear to be Christian. Education’s purpose was to facilitate the catechizing – the discipling process. The goal was not simply to make the students bright and successful students in society, but to make them sober, discerning, wise, and fruitful members of the Kingdom.

 Together, these distinctives: Holiness, Humility, Covenantal Community, Antithesis, and Catechizing – comprised what Groote called “Classical Christianity” or what we might call, “Biblical Orthodoxy.”

  • Groote believed that the key to reforming the church in his day was to begin at the grassroots level, and reform education – by finding places of fruitful ministry at home – and then investing in the people found there.
     
  • Groote’s vision was a multi-generational plan – a strategy that would stretch across the covenantal generations. He looked at his world and said that there was nothing he could do about the Babylonian Captivity of the church; nothing he could do about the universities; nothing he could do about the civil wars…FOR NOW.  But, if we lay foundations, enduring foundations – if our vision extends just beyond our own lifetimes – if our vision extends just to our children’s lifetimes – if we trust the gospel for the future – then real and substantive change is not only possible – it is promised!
     
  • Groote had this great faith that the gospel is not only true for the here and now, but that the gospel could transform entire cultures and change civilizations. That foundations laid in righteousness would ultimately endure when all of the foolishness of the world collapses under the weight of its own absurdity.
     
  • Groote never lived to see the day of how powerful and successful his vision was. He was forgotten because the movement he launched loomed so much larger than he did.
     
  • And yet, because of his faithful labors; because of his vision of discipleship; because of the band of disciples that he gathered around him and invested in – within a single decade, the world was changed forever.
     
  • I don’t just want to be right. I want something that endures for all the generations.
     
  • Wouldn’t it be wonderful to look across all the covenantal generations and to know that one day, because of the penance we’ve invested, in these short hours, that in the future a Luther or a Calvin, or a Whitefield, or a Wesley, or a Wilberforce – or all of them combined – would come forth from faithful covenantal parents, and change the world.
     
  • The great assurance of the gospel is that change is not just possible, it’s promised when God’s covenant people exercise covenant faithfulness.
     
  • Is there a Groote in you? Are you willing to die in obscurity to lay foundations that will endure across the generations? Like Groote, we must yearn for that which will change, and change for all time.
     
  • Groote taught that Satan would have us offer an alternative, any alternative to the truth, the one truth, the central truth of the gospel. He would have us affirm anything, anything at all, as long as it is not that Jesus is Lord – that he is the Lord over the totality of life, and that he has spoken authoritatively, definitively, and finally. Anything is acceptable to him, everything is acceptable to him – except the notion that the Lord has established his throne in the heavens and that his sovereignty rules over all. Anything is acceptable to Satan except the sufficiency of Scripture. Thus, even Satan underscores the inescapability of antithesis in his resistance to them.
     
  • In our quest for the excellent; in our quest for the substantive; in our quest for the effective, let’s never lose sight of the fact that all of that is perfectly acceptable to the enemy. The one thing that sets us apart is our desire to move from mere knowledge to understanding, and from understanding to wisdom.

 Groote said,

“Lay foundations that will endure in the hearts of your children. For there are only two things that are eternal in all of the created order: the children under your care, and the Word of God.”

 Grant’s Prayer at the end of the message…

     O Father; Almighty Father, I confess to you that I am often diverted by pleasant alternatives. I am often tantalized by that which will bring success, effectiveness, suasion in the here and now. I pray that you would give me eyes to look beyond the horizon of just this moment. Enable me to invest for all eternity. Enable us to have a distinctive vision of discipleship – like that of Gerard Groote before us. Enable us to quest for holiness, humility, covenantal community, antithesis, catechizing – classical Christianity – in the hearts of our children – first and foremost.

     Lord God, I pray that we will produce not just successful businessmen, or men and women effective in their vocations. We yearn for REFORMATION. Change the world, O God! And use us in the process.

 We pray this in Jesus name. Amen and amen.

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Here’s a short little introduction I just found on Groote that’s worth reading.

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Directions for Young Christians, Part 1

Direction 1: Concerning the Novelty of Godliness

A number of years ago, Scripture Studies.com., put out a series of excerpts from one of my heroes, Richard Baxter’s Christian Directory that was a real treat to see online. Specifically, the excerpts consisted of Baxter’s Directions to Young Christians.

I thought I would provide an even smaller excerpt and include the link for you to check out more of good Mr. Baxter’s most excellent spiritual counsel. He was a physician of souls indeed! As one person put it,And in our day of spiritual fads and consumerism, his direction is needed more than ever.” I couldn’t agree more. I thought these directions were particularly fitting for Christian men of all ages who are at a variety of distances in their Christian pilgrimages. May Baxter’s words bless you as continue to pursue godly manhood.

Blessings,
Dale

Here’s Direction 1…

Take heed lest it be the novelty or reputation of truth and godliness, that takes with you, more than the solid evidence of their excellency and necessity; lest when the novelty and reputation are gone, your religion wither and consume away.
 
…To this kind of professor, the greatest truths grow out of fashion, and they grow weary of them, as of dull and ordinary things; they must have some new light, or new way of religion that lately came in fashion; their souls are weary of that manna that at first was acceptable to them, as angels’ food. Old things seem low, and new things high to them; and to entertain some novelty in religion, is to grow up to more maturity: and too many such at last so far overthrive their old apparel, that the old Christ and old gospel are left behind them.
 

Click here to read the whole message.

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Three Questions for Men

1.) Where are you going?
2.) How are you going to get there?
3.) How will you know when you’re there?

Good Morning Brothers,

This past March I received a newsletter from Len Sykes. Len is a godly man who mentors, teaches, disciples, coaches, and leads men up in the Atlanta area. He’s also an associate of Ken Boa, the man who mentored me while I was in seminary. (While I’m thinking of it, you can learn more about Len or sign up for his newsletter by clicking here.)

In this particular newsletter, Len shared a little about his ministry. I’m always encouraged when he shares what he’s doing and what God is doing through him because it reminds me so much of my own ministry… and there’s so much I can learn from what Len shares.

Len talked a little about his passion, mission, and vision for his ministry. He commented that these are the three main areas that he encourages his men to focus on. The three questions that I listed at the top of this post are my version of what Len is talking about. These are important questions to ask because, as the old saying goes, ”If you don’t know where you’re going, then any road will get you there.” There are a lot of men who have no idea where they’re going… and they’re making great time getting there.

These issues of passion, mission, and vision are very important, in my opinion. I think most men want to live for something bigger than themselves. Part of their frustration is that they either don’t know what that something is… or they have an idea, but don’t know how to pursue it.

Passion. This is the “why” question. What drives you? Why do you get out of bed in the morning? Len says that passion is “the emotional/inspirational element of our desire. It’s that which energizes us.

What’s your passion? For yourself as a man of God? For your family? For you work setting? For your church? For your personal ministry? For your community? What’s that something that’s bigger than you that you want to live your life pursuing in each of these areas?

Mission. Len next points out that mission “relates to how we carry out our desires to serve the Lord and his people.” In other words, how are you going to fulfill your passion? How are you going to get there? What’s your plan?

Vision. This last component “relates to what the end result” of your passion and mission will look like. In other words, how will you know that you’ve fulfilled your mission (or that you’re making progress in the right direction)? Lots of aimless activity is not the same thing as moving toward your goal. Having a vision of what it will look like will help you focus and persevere as you move toward your goal…your dream of that something bigger than yourself.

My prayer is that each of you will not only have, but will also spend your life pursuing, a passion, mission, and vision for who you are as a man of God – for your own spiritual growth, for yourselves as husbands, fathers, employees/employers, churchmen, neighbors, for every sphere of your lives. To be sure, this is a huge undertaking. But can you imagine anything more worthy of your time and energy?

My family’s life-verse is 1 Corinthians 10:31, which says, “So whether you eat or drink or whatever you do, do it all for the glory of God.” From the extremely important to the utterly mundane, all of life is to be lived for God’s glory. This is the idea behind the phrase, “living life on purpose” or “living intentionally.”

Having a passion, a mission, and a vision will help you glorify God in all the spheres of your life. If I can help you discover, develop, and pursue your “something bigger than yourself,” please do not hesitate to let me know. It would be a joy, an honor, and a blessing to travel along side you as you seek and follow God’s call in your life.

Your Brother,
Dale

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